No Constraint To Be Put On Wife Which She Has Been Given

 

Behaviour with the sinner women  (L-524)

 

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا۟ ٱلنِّسَآءَ كَرْهًا وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا۟ بِبَعْضِ مَآ ءَاتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّآ  أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًٔا وَيَجْعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا 19.

19. Yaaa- ‘ayyu-hallaziina ‘aamanuu laa yahillu lakum ‘an-tarisun-nisaaa-‘a karhaa. Wa laa ta’-zuluuhunna litazhabuu bi-ba’-zi maaa ‘aatay-tumuu-hunna ‘illaaa ‘any-ya’-tiina bifaa-hishatim-mubayyinah. Wa ‘aashiruu-hunna bil-ma’-ruuf. Fa- ‘in- karih-tumuu-hunna fa-‘asaaa ‘an- takrahuu shay-‘anw-wa yaj-‘alAllaahu fiihi khay-ran- kasiiraa.

19.  O you who believe! It is not permitted for you to inherit women against their will. And do not coerce them in order to take away some of what you had given them, unless they commit a proven adultery. And live with them in kindness. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike something in which God has placed much good.

 

After telling about the lewdness and its punishment, now that tyranny of the ignorance is being obstructed which used to be upon the women. There was prevalent in to them that whenever any male used to die, then either deceased person’s step-son or brother or his any heir used to take hold of his wife. If he wished, either he used to marry her or keep her in his house without marriage, or let her married to some other male and used to get her Mahr (the money or its value incumbent on the husband) from him, or keep her in his own custody entire life and used to become heir of her wealth and property.

It has been ordered in Holy Qur’an that whenever any male dies, her wife have authority about her marriage. Any brother or heir of the person died has not this power to get married with her forcibly. If the woman be guilty of flagrant lewdness then she must be stopped. Otherwise, you should consort with the women in kindness and good behavior. If you do not like any habit of any woman, then have patience. It may happen that she would have much good. You do not know that what God has kept gain for you in to her. Personal sense of the human being is weak and knowledge is limited. Knowledge of God is very vast and unlimited.

Advantages Of Positive Thought: Positive thinking means, “Meditate in sound sides also if you find any form of badness in any work or thing because it may happen that goodness have more better sides in to it than its bad sides or sound side may be more useful for you”. For example; one’s wife is ugly but she has good children from such male. Then the result will be that his wife will slip away as well as his children will also be left and he would have to face such bitterness, mental torture, war for getting his children and fights for rights during remaining entire life that he will never feel relaxation.

Like this, any person has been appointed in an office but he is not liked. Nevertheless, because of him, the system of the office is running very smoothly. Although, it is not liked that he should be kept in service, but dismissing him from service; only due to unlikeness; will ruin the entire system. Therefore, it is much better to bear such person keeping in view his advantages on such appointment.  

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