How to divorce (a)

 

How to divorce (a) (L-3279)

Chapter “’AT-TALAAQ” – (Divorce) - 65

‘A-‘uu-zu  Billaahi minash-Shay-taanir- Rajiim.

 (I seek refuge in Allaah from Satan the outcast)
Bis-Millaahir-Rah-maanir-Rahiim.
(In the name of Allaah, the Beneficent, the Merciful)

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا۟ ٱلْعِدَّةَ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنۢ بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَلَا يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَّآ أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّهِ وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُۥ لَا تَدْرِى لَعَلَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحْدِثُ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ أَمْرًا 1

1.  Yaaa-‘ayyuhan-Nabiyyu  ‘izaa  tallaq-tummun-nisaaa-'a  fa-talliquu-hunna  li-'iddati-hinna  wa  ‘ahsul-'iddah.  WattaqUllaaha  Rabbakum.  Laa tukhri-juuhunna  mim- bu-yuutihinna  wa  laa  yakhrujna  ‘illaaa  ‘any-ya'-tiina  bi-faahishatim-mu-bayyinah.  Wa  tilka  HuduudUllaah.  Wa  many- yata-'adda  HuduudAllaahi  faqad  zalama  nafsah.  Laa  tadrii  la-'allAllaaha  yuhdisu  ba'-da  zaalika  ‘amraa.

1. O Prophet! When you (men) put away women, put them away for their (legal) period and reckon the period, and keep your duty to Allah, your Lord. Expel them not from their houses nor let them go forth unless they commit open immorality. Such are the limits (imposed by) Allah; and whoso transgresses Allah's limits, he verily wrongs his soul. You know not: it may be that Allah will afterward bring some new thing to pass.

After permission of divorcing the woman according to Religious Law, the people began to put the women away thoughtlessly as and when they wished. It became reason that the women were hurt and sometimes the husband himself had to regret. Therefore in this Chapter, the same matter has been explained. It turned out that one should divorce his wife when he considers dire need and he feels that there is no other way of salvation.

It is commanded: When you divorce women, divorce them for the commencement of their waiting period and keep count of the waiting period. Although the divorce will immediately be commenced as and when you will divorce, but Allaah Almighty does not desire to put anyone of you in trouble. Therefore you must divorce during those days when you can meet your wife for sexual intercourse but you do not commit, so that their waiting period may be counted without increase or decrease of the days. Every work must be done; fearing Allaah Almighty. (Continued) 

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Introduction of the Chapter “Divorce”

 

Introduction - “Divorce” (L-3278)

Chapter “’AT-TALAAQ” – (Divorce) - 65

According to order, this is sixty-fifth Chapter of Holy Qur’an, which was revealed in Madinah during 6^th year AH. It has two Sections. Chapter Two (Suratul-Baqarah) was revealed before this Chapter, in which commandments concerning the divorce were described. In this Chapter, suitable time and occasions of divorce have been explained, so that husband’s authority of divorcing may not be used for provoking and molesting the wife. Divorcing is not good. It should neither be used for punishing and nor be taken as a play.

Therefore it has been described: When you put your wife away, put her away for her legal period so that the waiting period may be reckoned without decreasing or increasing of the days. The both (husband and wife) must keep in mind carefully the days of the term (during the term of probation incumbent upon her in consequence of a dissolution of marriage either by divorce or by the death of her husband, after divorce the period is 3 months, and after death of her husband is 4 months and 10 days), so that there may not be any error in counting of the days and for escaping from any bad conclusion. So the best time of divorcing is after purity (from menses) when the husband has not committed sexual intercourse with his wife so far, because waiting period of the term is three menstruations. If husband divorces during the period of menses, that menstruation period will not be counted, but next three time’s menstruations will be counted and the waiting period will become long. And if he has touched his wife during the purity period, then it will not be possible to know that the term will be finished after three times menstruation or after the pregnancy, because there is possibility of pregnancy.

Secondly, you must not expel your wife from her house immediately after divorcing. Moreover, the woman too must not leave her house during waiting period. However if she commits open immorality or you are feeling trouble every time due to quarrels, then she can be expelled.

Thirdly, it is understood that all three divorces must not be given at a time, but in every month there must be only one divorce, so that they may have chance of reconciliation. Think before ending of the entire term, whether you will retain her or leave. You must not put her in trouble in any condition. Such are the limits imposed by Allaah Almighty, and you must fear Him. In this form He will help you.

After that, there are instructions about the pregnant divorced and minor girls. Let them breastfeed to the baby after giving birth if you desire, and pay them suitable substitution of giving suck. If you may not content her to give suck, then you must arrange for any other breastfeeding woman. You must provide facilities to the women during the term.

Then it is commanded: Abide by the Religious Laws of Islam and accomplish the rights of the women, otherwise you can be punished also due to transgression of Allaah's limits, as the disobedient before you were punished. Rules and Regulations of Islam have been explained by Holy Qur’an and the Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him), so that you may come out from the darkness of ignorance; in the light of knowledge. Reward of this obedience will be Paradise for you. Know the Creator of the entire universe and obey Him.

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Promise of God

 

Promise of God (L-3277)

إِن تُقْرِضُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ قَرْضًا حَسَنًا يُضَٰعِفْهُ لَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ وَٱللَّهُ شَكُورٌ حَلِيمٌ 17  عَٰلِمُ ٱلْغَيْبِ وَٱلشَّهَٰدَةِ ٱلْعَزِيزُ ٱلْحَكِيمُ 18

17.  ‘In  tuqrizUllaaha  Qarzan  Hasanany-yuzaa-‘ifhu lakum  wa  yag-fir  lakum.  Wallaahu  Shakuurun  Haliim. 18.  'Aalimul-Ghaybi  wash-Shahaadatil-'Aziizul-Hakiim. (Section 2/16)

17. If you lend unto Allah a goodly loan, He will double it for you and will forgive you, for Allah is Responsive, Clement, 18. Knower of the Invisible and the Visible, the Mighty, the Wise.

                                    

It is commanded: Spending wealth in the Way of Allaah Almighty according to His Commandment will never be useless. If you will fulfill the requirements of those who really are necessitous; and will spend generously for public welfare, and your aim will be to please Allaah Almighty, then understand it as you have been lending to Him and you will never be among the losers due to such spending. For attaining the pleasure of Allaah Almighty, which money will you spend; He will multiply it for you and forgive your sins and errors. Allaah is Most Appreciative and Forbearing. He does not punish immediately to the sinners but reprieves, so that they should repent due to their errors. He forgives them who repent wholeheartedly. He is the Knower of your apparent works and hidden intentions. He gives suitable reward of belief and righteous works, but punishes properly to the disbelievers and wrongdoers.

It has been described in this Chapter: It is apparent from the condition of everything that those are entirely under the control of Allaah Almighty, Who is Free from all kinds of defects or faults. He has bestowed the best form and countenance to the mankind, is Aware of every mankind’s every work and every thought. Even then most of the people do not believe in Him, but disobey His Commands. Bear in mind! Allaah Almighty will bring all of you back to life again after death and every individual will be dealt with according to personal deeds – reward or punishment. Righteous people will go to the Paradise, but the abode of the wrongdoers will be the Hell. You must never be careless from Allaah Almighty due to being involved in the love of wealth, wives or children. Educate and train your children properly, and spend your wealth for the pleasure of Allaah Almighty. You will have its best result.

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Lesson of tolerance

 

Lesson of tolerance (L-3276)

وَإِن تَعْفُوا۟ وَتَصْفَحُوا۟ وَتَغْفِرُوا۟ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ 14b  إِنَّمَآ أَمْوَٰلُكُمْ وَأَوْلَٰدُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَٱللَّهُ عِندَهُۥٓ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ 15  فَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ مَا ٱسْتَطَعْتُمْ وَٱسْمَعُوا۟ وَأَطِيعُوا۟ وَأَنفِقُوا۟ خَيْرًا لِّأَنفُسِكُمْ وَمَن يُوقَ شُحَّ نَفْسِهِۦ فَأُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلْمُفْلِحُونَ 16

14b.  Wa  ‘in ta'-fuu  wa  tasfa-huu  wa  tag-firuu  fa-‘innAllaaha  Gafuurur- Rahiim. 15.  ‘Innamaa  ‘amwaalukum  wa  ‘awlaadukum  fitnah.  Wallaahu  'indaHuuu  ‘Ajrun  'aziim. 16.  FattaqUllaaha  masta-ta'-tum  wasma-'uu  wa  atii-'uu  wa  ‘anfiquu  khay-ral-li-‘anfusi-kum.  Wa  many-yuuqa  shuh-ha  nafsihii  fa-‘ulaaa-'ika  humul-Muflihuun.

14b.  And if you efface and overlook and forgive, then lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. 15. Your wealth and your children are only a temptation, whereas Allah! With Him is an immense reward. 16. So keep your duty to Allah as best you can, and listen, and obey, and spend; that is better for your souls. And whoso is saved from his own greed, such are the successful.

Some are such wives and children, due to whom the Man is harmed religiously or worldly. If it happens at any time, the man feels grief and is enraged on that wife or child; by whom he was harmed. Then he desires to punish such person severely.

At such occasion, it has been commanded in this verse:  If you use common sense and patience, pardon them, overlook and forgive their mistakes, its consequence will be better. It will be result of such generosity that Allaah Almighty will forgive your sins. He is Forgiving and Merciful. If the man gets any loss due to his wife or children, there is any error of himself too if he think. So being enraged on them only cannot be correct. Actual matter is it that your wealth and your children are but a trial. You must be careful when you behave with them. Abiding by the Commands of Allaah is cause of a reward and He has with Him a great reward. Therefore, you must fear Allaah as much as you are able, listen to Him and obey His Commandment. Sometime the man becomes stingy with the members of his family and is excited. He does not spend as he has to spend. Those who are not greedy but spend in the way of Allaah, it is better for themselves. Whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul - it is those who will be the successful.

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God's command continues everywhere

 

God's command continues everywhere (L-3275)

) مَآ أَصَابَ مِن مُّصِيبَةٍ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ ٱللَّهِ وَمَن يُؤْمِنۢ بِٱللَّهِ يَهْدِ قَلْبَهُۥ وَٱللَّهُ بِكُلِّ شَىْءٍ عَلِيمٌ 11  وَأَطِيعُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَأَطِيعُوا۟ ٱلرَّسُولَ فَإِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ فَإِنَّمَا عَلَىٰ رَسُولِنَا ٱلْبَلَٰغُ ٱلْمُبِينُ 12  ٱللَّهُ لَآ إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ وَعَلَى ٱللَّهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ 13  يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓا۟ إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَٰدِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَٱحْذَرُوهُمْ 14a

11.  Maaa  ‘asaaba  mim-musiibatin  ‘illaa  bi-‘izNillaah.  Wa  many-yu'-mim- Billaahi  yahdi  qalbah.  Wallaahu  bikulli  shay-'in  ‘Aliim. 12.  Wa  ‘atii-'Ullaaha  wa  ‘atii-'ur-Rasuuul.  Fa-‘in  tawallay-tum  fa-‘innamaa  'alaa  RasuuliNal-Balaagul-mubiin. 13.  ‘Allaahu  Laaa  ‘ilaaha  ‘illaa  Huu.  Wa  'alAllaahi  fal-yata-wakkalil- Mu'-minuun. 14a.  Yaaa-‘ayyuhallaziina  ‘aamanuuu  ‘inna  min  ‘azwaaji-kum  wa  ‘awlaadikum  'aduw-wal-lakum  fahzaruuhum.

11. No calamity befalls save by Allah's leave. And whosoever believes in Allah, He guides his heart. And Allah is Knower of all things. 12. Obey Allah and obey His messenger; but if you turn away, then the duty of Our messenger is only to convey (the message) plainly. 13. Allah! There is no God save Him. In Allah, therefore, let believers put their trust. 14a. O you who believe! Lo! Among your wives and your children there are enemies for you, therefor beware of them.

During those days, the Muslims were entangled in severe calamities. Refractory people of Makkah had compelled them to leave their native Township. In these verses, they are being consoled: No disaster strikes except by the permission of Allaah Almighty. He is the Wise Who sends any affliction and He is Aware of its advisability. Those people who believe in Allaah - He guides their hearts and they bear the difficulties with patience. He knows that what is better at which time. However, you must obey Allaah and His Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him). If you turned away – then you would be from the losers instead of Our Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him). Upon Our Messenger is only the duty of clear notification. You are responsible of yourselves, whether you believe or disbelieve. Remember! There is no Deity except Allaah. The believers must rely upon Him. O you who have believed, indeed, among your wives and your children are enemies to you who prevent you from acting upon His Commandments, so you must beware of them.  

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