Introduction of Chapter “Banning” - (66) (L-3288)
In order, this is sixty-sixth Chapter of Holy Qur’an. It contains two Sections. It was revealed in Madinah. In the previous Chapter “Divorce”, the husbands were instructed that they should treat their wives softly and humanely. Even after divorcing; they should not try to get rid of them like the wild, but during the waiting period they should be a security for fulfilling their requirements, permit them to live at their houses and do not molest them in any matter.
In this Chapter, it has been described to the women: You must not try to compel and harass your husband to fulfill your unnecessary desires (being courageous due to his soft and good behavior). The men should not regard their wives so much that they begin to do such works which are contrary to religious instructions. For dwelling peacefully, there is a guidance for Muslim men and women in the ordinary occurrences happened at the home of the Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him). Such matters and their solutions were explained which might produce troubles and appear in a dangerous form. It happened that some chaste wives of the Messenger dared to demand some exceptionable things, and for pleasing them he made lawful things unlawful for himself; so that the displeasure may not spread in the environment of the house. There was a risk in this matter that in future the wives will compel their husbands to suffer for fulfilling their unnecessary wishes by exemplifying the Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him) and his wives (May Allaah be pleased with them). So this door was closed permanently.
Therefore, it was commanded: O Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him): Don’t care so much of the will of your wives that you make the lawful thing unlawful for yourself. In fact many depravities grow due to it that every individual is careless of own duties but considers that fulfilling his or her requirements is responsibility of others. The son considers that it is duty of his parents that they should bring him up and treat him with kindness, but he does not think that he himself also should perform his duties and let others do their duties. If all mankind will correct themselves instead of having hopes from others, then all works of every person of the world will be correct. Usually human beings blame others that they quarrel, whereas everyone must think that “Is he performing his duty according to Religious Law or otherwise?”
The main advice in this Chapter is “Everyone must perform one’s
duty properly instead of thinking that others must do their duties for
benefiting the one so that the one may enjoy without working”.