Return & Position Of Husband And Wife

 

Reconciliation among husband and wife (L-295)

وَبُعولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ في ذٰلِكَ إِن أَرادوا إِصلاحًا ۚ وَلَهُنَّ مِثلُ الَّذي عَلَيهِنَّ بِالمَعروفِ ۚ وَلِلرِّجالِ عَلَيهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَزيزٌ حَكيمٌ228b.

228b.  Wa  bu- uulatu-hunna  ‘ahaqqu  bi-raddi-hinna  fii  zaalika  ‘in  ‘araa-duuu  ‘islaahaa.  Wa la-hunna  mislullazii  ‘alay-hinna  bil-ma’-ruuf,  wa  lir-rijaali  ‘alayhinna  darajah.  WAllaahu  ‘Aziizun  Hakiim.  (Section 28/12)

228b.  Meanwhile, their husbands have the better right to take them back, if they desire reconciliation. And women have rights similar to their obligations, according to what is fair. But men have a degree over them. God is Mighty and Wise.

‘Ahaqqu  bi-raddihinna – {they (men) have more rights to take them back}. This proves from it that the husband should not take quite last decision till the time he can delay and it is better if they both (husband and wife) establish themselves again with effect from the beginning, and the time of their separation doesn’t come forever.   

The Divine law of Islam has kept it (divorce) lawful only as remedy at the time of necessity and last disposal. It has neither been induced positively to divorce, nor is it liked without need. The words “‘Abgazul-mubahaat” have been used in one Hadith of the Sayings of the Last Messenger (ﷺ) which means ‘most disliked act near God out of prescribed lawful acts by Him’ i.e. the divorce. So after meditation and consideration; the husbands would have to do better to take them back in that case if they desire reconciliation. They can cancel the divorce. Technically it is called looking back (towards marriage).

After permitting return (to wife); God has admonished also that the divorce should only be abolished if both the life partners remain in peace and truce with each other in future, and it must not be the purpose to torture the woman. Although, the husband can cancel the divorce legally, but his good behavior doesn’t relate to the law. Moreover; it depends only on his courtesy and good intention. So, the mankind should adopt the way of good apparent and natural behavior.

Then it has been described that as the men have rights over the women, like this, the women also have rights over men. It has been intimated to the world, “you must not deem that only the men have rights over the women, as well as they also have rights over men. However, the man has some degree above the woman in excellence and merit. This excellence and virtue of the man is due to his wisdom and strength. These all commands are from God which we have to admit because He is Most Mighty and Wise. https://youtu.be/VJ57kl3CwPs