Relation Between Husband And Wife

 

Relationship between husband and wife (L-223)

أُحِلَّ لَكُم لَيلَةَ الصِّيامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلىٰ نِسائِكُم ۚ هُنَّ لِباسٌ لَكُم وَأَنتُم لِباسٌ لَهُنَّ ۗ 187a.

187a.  ‘U-hilla  lakum  laylatas-Siyaamir-rafasu  ‘ilaa  nisaaa-‘i-kum.  Hunna  libaasul-lakum  wa  ‘antum  libaasul-lahunn.

187a.  Permitted for you is intercourse with your wives on the night of the fast. They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them

‘Ar-rafasu – (to go in unto (wives), literal meaning of the word rafasa is ‘the speech or talk which excite sexual feelings and sensual wishes. Here it means ‘to sleep together of husband and wife for intercourse’.

You know that Commandments of the Divine Religion of Islam were revealed slowly and gradually. Like the people of the Scripture (the Children of Israel), the Muslims also used to refrain from committing sexual intercourse with their wives after sleeping at night during the month of Ramadan. It has been softened by means of this verse, and permitted that they can perform sexual intercourse with their wives at night.

It discloses that Islam doesn’t desire to cause the wishes and feelings of mankind to suffer entirely. Moreover, it desires to put the entire works in order and according to the Will of God. We should do any work when God wills and stop doing it when it is forbidden by Him because He understands best about our betterment and expedience. We don’t know about profit and loss of ourselves.

Besides the fasting, there is no restriction for husband and wife during day and night. But it is forbidden in the day time during the fasting. If anybody disobeys this commandment, he will either keep the fasts for sixty days continuously as punishment of one broken fast or set free a slave or feed sixty poor persons as the case may be.  

Libaasun – (raiment, clothing), it has been revealed concerning close relationship of husband and wife by commanding them as clothing of one  another which is an inference among the relationship of them with the permission of God. This example of raiment exists in many forms, for instance; their close relationship between themselves, their need of each other, their perfect bodily nearness, grace and beauty for one another, and being reason of satisfaction and facility, best of all that, is concealing blemishes of each other also, being perfect trusty of one another.  

Please think that how much things have been made for one to understand; by using the one word Libaasun ‘the raiment’. It is necessary for husband and wife (both) that they should prove themselves clothing (confident), trustworthy, secret keepers, hearty rest provider and cause of pleasure for each other. https://youtu.be/yB3fvbbtsZA