SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER (153 TO 174)
(SALLALLAHO-ALAIHE-WA-AALEHI-WASALLAM)
Relations with husband, children & Other Kin
153. Sayyidah
“Umm Salmah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)
The woman whose
husband is pleased with her and she dies will be sent to Paradise .
(Ibn Majah, Tirmizi, Targheeb)
154. Sayyidina
‘Abdullah bin ‘Awf (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
The woman who observes
the five prayers regularly, fasts during the month of Ramadhan, preserves her
chastity and obedient to her husband, will be told: Enter Paradise by whichever
of its doors you wish to enter. (Ahmad, Tabarani,
Targheeb)
155. Sayyidina
Husayn bin Mohsin (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Your husband is your Paradise and your Hell. (If he is obeyed then he is a
means to Paradise , otherwise Hell). (Ahmad, Nasa’i, Targheeb)
156. Sayyidina
Qays bin Sa’d (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
If
I were to command a person to prostrate before any other person I would command
women to prostrate before their husbands because Allah has allowed many rights
to husbands. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)
157. Sayyidina
‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
It
is the husband’s right on his wife that if he calls her to him she must not say
no even if she is seated on a saddle back. It is also one of his rights that
she must not observe optional fasting without his permission; if she does so
then she will stay hungry and thirsty (meaninglessly) and her fasting will not
be accepted. No woman should go out of her house without the permission of her
husband; if she does so then the Angels of the heaven, Angels of mercy, Angels
of punishment-all curse her until she returns. (Tabarani,
Targheeb)
158. Sayyidina
Zayd bin Arqam (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
A
woman cannot fulfill the rights of Allah unless she fulfils the rights of her
husband. (Tabarani, Targheeb)
159. Sayyidina
‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Allah
does not look at that woman (with mercy) who does not thank her husband
although she can never be independent of him. (Nasa’i,
Targheeb)
160. Sayyidina
Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
If
a husband calls his wife to his bed and she does not oblige so that he is
annoyed with her for the night then the Angels curse such a woman until dawn. (Bukhari, Targheeb)
RELATIONS WITH Children
161. Sayyidah
‘Aishah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)
If
anyone has on him the responsibility of raising daughters and he fulfils that
responsibility gently, then these daughters will be a means to protect him from
the Fire. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)
162. Sayyidina
Jabir bin Samurah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
If
anyone teaches his children etiquettes it is better than paying one Sa’ in
Sadaqah. (Sa’ is a measure of weight. Sadaqah is charity). (Tirmizi, Mishkat)
163. Sayyidina
Anas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
If
anyone raises two daughters looking after them until they attain adulthood
then, on the day of Resurrection, I and he will be (near to one another) like
that, saying that he joined his fingers together. (Muslim, Mishkat)
164. Sayyidina
Ibn ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
If
anyone is guardian over a girl (daughter, sister etc) and he does not bury her
alive, does not belittle her, and does not prefer his male children over her
then Allah will send him to Paradise . (Abu Dawood, Mishkat)
165. Sayyidina
Ayyub bin Moosa (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
A
father cannot give his son a gift better than good moral upbringing. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)
166. Sayyidina
Suraaqah bin Maalik (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Shall
I not reveal to you the most superior Sadaqah? If your daughter returns to you
(on being divorced) and there is no one to earn for her besides you (then you
must take care of her). (Ibn Majah, Mishkat)
167. Sayyidina
Sabrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Teach
your child to pray when he is seven years old. At ten years of age, beat him
(if he neglects prayer). (Ahmad, Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir by
Seyuti)
168. Sayyidina
Bakr bin ‘Abdullah bin ar-Rabee (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Teach
your children swimming and archery. The best play for the believing women is
the spinning wheel. When your mother and father summon you simultaneously then
you must go to your mother first. (Ibn Mansoor,
Faryaabi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)
Relations With Other Kin
169. Sayyidina
Sa’eed bin al-‘Aas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
The
elder brothers have rights over their younger brothers similar to the rights of
a father over his sons. (Bayhaqi, Mishkat)
170. Sayyidina
‘Ali (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
The
paternal uncle of a person is a branch of his father. (Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)
171. Sayyidina
Baraa’ bin ‘Azib (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
The
maternal aunt is of the same rank as one’s mother. (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, al-Jami’as-Saghir)
172. Sayyidina
Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Learn
enough of your geneology to be able to keep relationships alive because joining
ties with relatives brings about love, increases wealth and delays death. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)
173. Sayyidina
Jubayr bin Mut’im (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
He
who breaks ties of relationship will not enter Paradise .
(Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)
174. Sayyidina
‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
He
who reciprocates (the kind gestures of relatives) is not the one who joins ties
of relationship but he is the one to join these ties who responds kindly to
those who break relationship with him. (Bukhari, Muslim)